When Rachel asked me to become a cover girl, the first thing I did was revisit all of the cover girl profiles from over the years. Wow—I feel honored, and I realize that I truly am in amazing company.
My story is probably similar to many others. I grew up in a small town in Western Canada – a very conservative and unforgiving place for a boy who desperately wanted to wear his mother's clothes. Not surprisingly, I had a hard time accepting my transgenderism or reconciling it with my athleticism, love of boy things such as cars and motorcycles, and fascination with girls. For most of my teenage and adult life, I went through frustrating phases of denial and self-loathing. It wasn't until my early 40s that I finally realized that life is short, and that I needed to accept myself completely for who I am.
Today, I find myself in an infinitely better place. I'm 51 and make my home in British Columbia, along with my incredibly supportive and accepting wife. I dress and embrace my femininity with joy—and without guilt or shame—as often as possible. All the important people in my life know that I am transgendered, and although I am still not truly out and about in public, I am looking forward to making that dream come true in 2015.
There are, I believe, three truths in life when it comes to being transgendered. First, it is a gift, and there are few things that give me as much joy. Second, while I know everyone's situation is different, revealing who you are to the people you love will truly set you free. Finally, you've got to own it—make no apologies about who you are, because we were born this way and are special because of it.
As Freddie Mercury once sang, "...bad mistakes, I've made a few." One of mine is not having the courage to embrace my femininity earlier in life. But I'm determined to make up for lost time, and look forward to remaining young at heart through love of fashion, femininity and female form.
Thank you again,
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